I have wanted to write to you for years but always feel I should pull myself together and count my blessings instead.
I am years-old, twice married and a widow of a few years.
I have two sons and three grandchildren. When my second husband died, I had over four years of difficult legal and financial problems because of his self-made will. I live in a large house in big grounds, and since my husband's death I have had to do an enormous amount of restoration and maintenance. I have learned so much in Older linely ladies wanted with builders, making constant decisions and paying bills. The house is now on the market and I can't wait to buy a smaller, more practical one.
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Now I just want to hide and wnted, knowing that nobody misses me. I look after myself well. I cook, keep myself attractive, stay slim, walk my dog, but I feel constantly that some disaster is about to happen. I sometimes feel ashamed and that I am being punished. Before I tell you what I think of your situation, I 29378 woman looking for sex putting out an emergency Older linely ladies wanted to readers because I know that many of you will have hit a brick wall like Lonely and that, one way or another, you will have found your way Older linely ladies wanted of it.
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Older linely ladies wanted of your social isolation, there is nobody around you to say, "This isn't normal, you need help". So I am saying it instead.
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You look organised and well-groomed. You have made a lonely of managing major problems without help, and you have learned a lot, which is great and will stand you in good stead. What is not great is that this appearance of supreme self-sufficiency may have lost you friends. Yes, you Older linely ladies wanted manage and handle things and look after yourself but you are very unhappy.
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It can be self-perpetuating and lead to the fearful depressive state in which you find yourself. I am sure that your legal, financial and practical problems have contributed to your exhaustion. We all need the love and support of other people.
We need kindness and laughter and companionship in our daily lives. We need new things to do and companions to do them with.
We need breaks from our habitual surroundings. Are you good at taking holidays?
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Take this one small step at a time: Send for some holiday brochures. Give yourself some self-care. I see that your local town has an alternative health centre that offers all kinds of services.
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